Write down the things you are grateful for

When one of my loved ones passed I remember feeling sad, disappointed and angry. I had prayed incessantly. My friends had prayed. Even the friends of my friends had prayed.

Until then, part of my morning routine had been giving thanks for all the blessings I had in my life. But after her death, the first time I prayed I was so angry that all I could say was: "Thank you for nothing".

When a loved one is gone, everything looks dark and it is natural to focus on that darkness.

It took some time for me to realize that there were still good things in my life that I could be grateful for. Other loved ones were thriving and well, I had the love and support of my friends, I had my own health, and so on.

Writing down the good things we still have and feeling grateful for having them, can help bring our focus away from the darkness.

If you don't want to write, that's OK, you can just say them aloud to yourself or share them with a friend.

And as with everything else, don't push yourself. After experiencing a loss, feeling grateful won't always come naturally.

Do this when you feel ready to give it a try.