Pause Postpone

There were many things that I enjoyed doing with one of my loved ones, and when she died, it was as if suddenly all those things had died with her too. Things that we shared, things that were "our thing", things that once brought us joy, now brought me pain because I could no longer share them with her.

Losing a loved one is hard. If on top of that you quit everything you did before, then the loss will feel even greater.

Maybe right now you don't feel like doing those things. But that doesn't mean you'll never do them again. It doesn't have to be like that. 

How long it will take depends on you and your healing process. In my case, for example, there's one thing that I didn't feel like doing untill 5 years after my loss. For me that particular thing took that amount of time, for you it could take more, or it could take less. 

As with everything else in the healing process: no pressure.

For now, just think of these things as something that you are pausing, or postponing. They are not gone forever, they are still there, waiting for you to come back, when the time is right.