Go at your own pace

Some days you'll feel like you want to spend the whole day in bed. And there will be other days when someone invites you to a party and you'll be excited about it and go. Do what feels best.

Grief isn't a linear process.

If after a few days of feeling good and enthusiastic you feel sad again don't force yourself to keep feeding good. Don't try to suppress your sad feelings because you were doing so well and you don't want to be back to feeling sad. Allow your body to feel whatever it needs to feel. 

Listen to your body. If you need rest and nourishment then do that. If seeing friends or being among lots of people is what feels right in that moment then do it.

Just as you need to honor your body's needs, others need to honor and respect it too. Sometimes people have an idea of how long we should feel sad, or how soon we should be out having fun. 

Someone might come and say "You should be feeling better by now" or "It's too soon to go to a party". 

The truth is: only you know what is right for you, and nobody can come and tell you how you should be feeling. Each grief process is unique.